Last week I was driving in my car and I was alone. For the first time since Jasper’s birth (he is now 10 weeks old) I was alone. And not just the kind of ‘alone’ you get in the shower or when the kids are asleep but actually really, properly alone.
And it was devine!
I love my boys but shit I miss just being by myself sometimes.
My personality means that, though I enjoy being around people, it drains me. I need alone time to re-energize. And having young children, breastfeeding, bed sharing, as much as I love it all, can leave me feeling ‘touched out’ sometimes.
But on this night I left Kaine and the boys at home, 3 bottles of express milk in the fridge and headed out. A 20 minute drive alone in my car had me feeling relaxed and revived. And that was just the beginning.
I collected my bestie and we headed to a night of dancing and singing along to none other than Hanson. Yes, they are still around. Yes, they are actually super talented. And yes, they still get hearts racing. Except those hearts now belong to thirty-something’s not teenagers.
It was a great night. I was tired and my boobs were close to exploding but I felt like I had reconnected with me again.
I hear from mum’s that have 12 month old babies and older that still have not been away from them and had time to themselves or dates with their partners. And honestly, I don’t know how they do it. Perhaps they don’t need it like I do?
But for those mum’s like me who need a bit of time out, there’s no shame in it. In fact, I honestly believe taking some time out makes us better mothers and better wives.
So whatever it is for you; a shopping trip without toddler tantrums, a hair appointment to sort out that dirty mum bun or a night out with a girlfriend reliving your youth, do it!